If there is one thing that I could say that could empower you beyond anything else: one phrase that could enable you to change any aspect of your life and how it affects you it would be this, “You have the power to take control of YOUR reaction to life, you can choose to take responsibility for everything that happens to you and change each event into whatever you desire it to be. Your life is truly whatever you allow it to be. The full scope of this may be beyond what you can grasp, especially if this is your first visit to the site- or if you are still stuck in a negative world view; if you can learn to have faith in this one simple thing it can change your life and it can change everything about you.
As children we are raised to be dependent: we seek comfort, love, food, water, and shelter from others; we learn early on that we must depend on others to sustain us, and to an extent this remains true throughout our entire lives. A divide occurs when most of us begin to adopt the beliefs of others, taking on criticisms, reluctance, and fear of failure. The world tells us to blend in, be like everyone else, do NOT stand out from the crowd. As we adopt these beliefs and values as our own, we unconsciously inherit our families fears, limits, and world views. This happening is of value to a degree, for instance: we often learn from our parents not to steal or harm others, to be unselfish, and follow normal social constraints of morality. This comes at the cost of us becoming dependent on others for our needs as we look to others for advice and we accept their beliefs as our own. Now we adopt their limits and place them on our own lives as well.
As we grow up, we tend to accept the common worldviews (group think), that life is out of our control, and that everything that happens to us is predetermined. Believing that everything is predetermined takes away your power to influence your life, because after all, you believe everything is already bound to happen as planned. When you choose to believe that nothing is within your control, nothing will be within your control: you will be lost to chance.
Life is incredibly subjective, two people can often look at one event and see two completely different things. For instance: a rich man can see an outdated T.V. as a waste of space and throw it into the garbage, while minutes later he can watch a lower middle class individual walk away with it merrily in his arms. There are very few instances of right and wrong, and there are very few instances of something being “it is what it is”, EVERYTHING is open to interpretation in life and your interpretation determines your experience of the situation. Your beliefs will determine your world.
Getting back to our inherited worldviews, most of us tend to naturally believe that chance governs our lives, that we get what we get, and that we are born with whatever talents we need to carry us into our lives. The “secret” of all secrets is that you CAN change yourself. You can develop skills, master your internal voice, change your world views, and monitor your progress on a path to change. Imagine that your world views (or paradigms), are like a series of lenses that you look through to see the world, each time you look at something you see it through the lense that changes the image to fit the lens. You don’t actually see what happens, you see the effects of the lens on your vision. This is how I can see a treasure, while you see only trash, your values and beliefs may cause you to see what’s in front of you differently than I do.
If you realise that you have the power to control how you view things you can change your entire perception and experience of life. This is how people who suffer traumatic experiences (like getting cancer), often become highly inspirational and positive people. Some event forces them to realize that you cannot always control life or what happens to you, but you can ALWAYS choose how you react to and prepare for the things that do happen.
When the unexpected occurs in life we can control how we view it. One man can see failure, another can see a valuable learning experience that will better himself. We can’t control everything in life, but we can control our perception, we can control the way that we react to our circumstances, and we can ultimately choose the lenses we use to view the world. Taking responsibility for how you react to life puts you back in control, you become the master of your fate.
This post is here as a foundation, a beginning to the rest of your life. You don’t have to fully believe that you can control everything in your life, you don’t have to believe that you write your own destiny, but if you ever hope to become better you have to believe that its possible to change. You can change your thoughts, words, actions, beliefs, you have the power to look within yourself and direct your reaction to life.
You have the power to change. You have the power to become anything you want, to see the world the way you want to see it, to believe whatever you want to believe. So I ask you this, would you prefer to believe that you are helplessly caught in the wind of life at the mercy of your circumstances and environment, or would you prefer to believe you are a highly powerful being with the potential to become anything and develop any knowledge or skill you want? Do you want to be the slave or the master, the story or the writer? You can choose, and once you know that you can choose anything is possible.
This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. Decide now if your life is random and out of your control, or if life is an accumulation of the choices and decision you have made throughout life. It is a choice only you can make.
“You take the blue pill – the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill – you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.”