I don’t feel like it. Seriously, I just don’t want to do it. I don’t know why, but sometimes it kills me to push through and do certain things.
I like doing a lot of things and they are beneficial for me, but there are some times that I know I should be doing something else, but I just keep pushing it off to some undetermined date and time in the future.
Today I want to share with you the exact process I use to get through the times when I know I should be doing something, even though I really don’t want to do it.
Step 1. Change your attitude
The first step to getting through something you don’t like to do or don’t want to do is to reframe the situation and change your mindset, because if all you experience is dread when you think about doing something, it is going to be pretty tough to get through the dread and get it done.
You can accomplish this in several ways.
First, you can try looking at the benefits for doing it. Sometimes we don’t really want to do something, but deep down we know we should do it, and in times like these, it can help to take a look at the benefits we can get from doing it; it won’t make us like to do it anymore, but at least we know it is for the greater good.
Second, you can offer yourself a reward for doing it. For example: you really don’t want to get up early and hit the gym before work, but you offer yourself the reward that if you do it all 5 work days this week, that you can spend 100$ at your favorite store. Additional external rewards can be a big help to getting things done you don’t feel like doing.
You can read more about motivation here.
Step 2. Figure out why you don’t “feel like it”.
There is usually some reason buried deep down inside of us for why we don’t feel like doing something. Many times the reason is not that we don’t like it, but it deals with an underlying reason that we can usually work around.
For example: I don’t like dancing. Why don’t I like dancing? Because, it isn’t fun. Why isn’t it fun? Because I am no good at it. Why does it bother you not to be good at dancing? Because I don’t want to look stupid in front of others.
I don’t like dancing, because I don’t feel like looking silly in front of others, and now that I have identified the real problem at hand, I can start finding specific solutions for the issue.
When you don’t feel like doing something, just keep asking yourself why until you get to the bottom of it. Sometimes you don’t even need to go all the way down, for example: when I answered my dancing questions, as soon as I answered “Because I am no good at it.” I realized that the only way to get good at it is to practice, and that made me want to do it!
Step 3. Figure a way around not “feeling like it”.
Let us stick with the dancing example. Really deep down I want to learn to dance, but I am afraid of what people will think of me while I am learning, so I can either offer myself rewards for being brave and learning in front of other people, or I can try to find ways of doing the practice while also avoiding being watched.
I could try taking private lessons with just one coach and myself, I could try practicing at home in front of a mirror, or I could set up a costume party each month and dance my shame away while I hide my face from view.
If you really think about why you don’t feel like doing it, you should be able to find at least of a couple of possibilities to work around the reason.
Step 4. Try it out
The next step just involves doing it. Sure you can theorize all day about how you are going to increase your motivation and find enjoyment doing something challenging to you, but the truth remains that most of the time we don’t feel like doing something, there is significant personal growth potential if we do it.
No one is good at everything the very first time they try it, so ultimately if you want to learn to enjoy doing something you don’t currently enjoy, then you are just going to have to just jump in and do it.
Step 5. Repeat Step 1-5.
If you have gone through all 5 steps and you still don’t like doing something, but you still feel like you should, or you still feel like you want to do get better, then just try again.
Success doesn’t lie in some magic power, it lies within the hard work, the dedication, the grind, and the ability to do something over and over again even if you don’t really enjoy it.
We should do our best to create a life that we enjoy, but even the best lives are going to contain things that we don’t want to do from time to time, and that is a good thing, because after all, variety is the spice of life.
So try again, and again, and again, and eventually you might like it.
What do you think? Have you had any success with doing something that you really didn’t like in the beginning yet you ended up loving it? Do you feel that our results and how we perceive our performance ties in with how much we like doing something? Leave a comment below and let me know what you think. Until next time!