I know, you think you know what you want in life, and maybe you even have some goals scribbled down somewhere in your home (you just don’t know where they are at the moment).
You think to yourself, that is good enough, at least you have a direction, heck just knowing that sets you apart from 90% of the other people out there in the world, and while that may be true, just knowing what you want is only the start of the process.
Trust me, I once thought the same thing: that knowing what you want is enough, but without really sitting down and setting goals and seeing your progress each week and month, you are seriously underselling yourself and your potential.
I was once just like you: I had some goals in mind, I was working hard, I knew what I wanted out of life (or at least I thought I did), but then things started changing.
Things that used to matter so much to me didn’t anymore, my priorities started to shift and I suffered for years as what I really wanted in life conflicted with what I was doing each day. I was making progress, but unbeknownst to me I was progressing away from what I REALLY wanted in life. I wish I would have sat down 4 years ago and planned out my life, looked at my 20 year goals, and made a plan to make it happen, but you live and you learn right?
The good thing about all this for you is that you don’t HAVE to make the same mistakes I did. You can start fresh using the same lessons that took me years to learn.
The number one thing I wish I would have done years ago is sit down, and take a look at my dream life: imagine waking up each day and doing exactly what I wanted, going where I wanted, living the experiences I wanted to live, being the type of person that I wished I could be, and I wish I would have set measurable goals that would bring me closer to that day.
Knowing what you want is great, it is a start, but how do you know what you REALLY want?
Sure, you want money, you want free time, and you want a career you love, but how do you get all those things simultaneously? Is it even possible? The paradox is this: the more money you make, the more time you usually spend to get it, the more time you spend getting money, the less time you have to do what you love, and the more money you have, the more opportunities you have to do what you love. It all kind of battles itself constantly.
So the trick is to find the balance between finding what we love to do, making enough money doing it so we can pursue the life we want, and continue to focus on improving ourselves over time. Goals help us is so many ways and you can read more here.
The simple answer is: NO, absolutely not. “Knowing” what you want is not a substitute for setting goals, in fact as you set goals, write them down, and think about what you want to have in your future, it will actually help you figure out what you want.
Don’t be like me, don’t work hard for years, slaving away to get something you think you want, only to realize when you sit down and write your goals that you were heading the wrong direction all along.
I still learned a lot of valuable lessons, I still grew in some ways as a person, but I seriously limited my potential to be the greatest I could be.
I guess I knew all along that something wasn’t right, I was working hard, but whether I won or lost was of little consequence to me.
I didn’t really want what I wanted for me, I guess I wanted it for other people even though I thought I was being independent, unique, and a trailblazer. I thought I was doing something different, but I was just falling into the ways of those around me, obsessed with the same shiny object at the end as everyone else, and the worst part is, I didn’t even ever really care about it in the first place.
I gave myself up to the pursuit of something for the reward of getting lost in it’s pursuit. I limited my life opportunities, my experiences, and my personal growth all in vain pursuit to numb the pain of living a life I didn’t want to live.
Does any of this sound familiar? Do you ever feel like what you are doing is meaningless, like your decisions are silently guided by the wants and desires of others?
Do you ever wake up and dread the day that lays before you, because it is exactly the same as the one before it?
Really think about what you want: who you want to be, what you want to have, what experiences you want, and what kind of human being you want to be remembered as, then things will become more clear. Write it all down and start setting 10 year, 5 year, 1 year, 1 month, and weekly goals, and make sure they are measurable. Don’t learn what I had to learn the hard way, make sure you KNOW you are doing the right thing.
Ready? Set. GO!