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How to use your fear to find your passion

There is a good chance that everything that you have ever wanted is on the other side of what you are afraid of. Think about it… Do you ever wish you could do something else for a career? Do you ever think that maybe there is something greater out there for you? Or do you have some secret desire for something that you never get around to doing? We all have a little voice that lives inside of us- some little calling for more ringing out within our soul, but we usually let “being realistic” or “being conservative” dictate the way that we live our lives. If you are taking the easy way instead of the exciting way, if you aren’t living up to your full potential, if you are overweight or out of shape, or if your life is not exactly what you want or heading towards it, then there is a good chance that fear is at least partially dictating the way that you are living your life. If you want to find your true potential and live a life truly alive with passion and purpose, then you must learn to walk towards the things that you are afraid of;  it is often the scariest times in our lives that lead us closer to our living a life filled with passion.   Case study into fear: Steve Jobs Anyone who has ever watched Jobs (the movie) or read anything about Steve Jobs knows that things weren’t always easy and comfortable for Steve. The perfect example of the hard times that Jobs went through to start Apple comes... read more

Why not everyone NEEDS a relationship to be happy

A lot of people in our society feel that they NEED to be in a relationship, heck, you might even be one of those people! The thing is, no one really needs to be in a relationship- despite what your overbearing friends and siblings may have to say about you. In fact, many people could actually benefit from not being in a relationship at all until they get their own internal world sorted out.   External pressure to be in a relationship or get married is high- especially as you get older. If you have the pleasure of hitting age 30 or even age 40 and you still haven’t found anyone to settle down with it is not the end of the world, but a lot of people will sue make you feel this way. Let’s face the facts, mom and dad want grand-kids and after all, everyone else your age is married or settled down… No matter what your current age is, being single is ok, and if you can take this time to work on yourself and build up your own life, then you will be more prepared when you do meet “the one”.   Why do people think it is so vital to fall in love and get married? So many of us suffer from low confidence or low self esteem. Men and women alike have come to judge themselves against nearly impossible comparisons- we compare ourselves to the rich and famous, the Instagram kings and queens, and the people we see on television. So many people in the world feel inadequate, couple with that with... read more

How to find the right work and life balance

So of course everyone’s real goal is to create a way of making a living that doesn’t feel like work at all, but even then, how does one balance the demands of life with the demands of work and passion? As I write this post I am sitting in a hotel room in Istanbul. I could literally be doing any number of things right now other than writing, and yet I still have to write it…Why?   Finding a work/life balance… Everyone must come a point where they decide what standards they will live by. They either choose their beliefs or they adopt beliefs based off of the expectations and the conditioning of others. For example: when you decide you want to quit your cushy corporate job and become a pizza maker most everyone will call you crazy…eager to be accepted by others you might decide to continue the corporate job even though it isn’t what YOU want. (your beliefs about life are chosen for you in this example). So assuming that you actually take the time to consider what you want your life to be like, and then you actually do something that you love then there is still another issue that you are faced with… Where do you draw the line? If you truly love what you are doing it can be very difficult at times to maintain other important things in your life. Maybe your dedication to work makes it hard to visit with friends, maybe your dedication to your fitness makes it difficult to indulge in junk food and drinking with friends, maybe your dedication... read more

Leader or Manager: which type of person are you?

Leadership and management are two very different terms that people often mix together. More and more jobs and careers are calling upon managers to be leaders and to develop their leadership skills, and yet, leaders and managers both are very distinct in their separate roles. A leader can help to manage at times, and a manager can help to lead at times, but it is important to understand the vital difference between these two types of people. If you want to find success in your own life, then you need to learn to be a bit of both.   Management… Is “the function that coordinates the efforts of people to accomplish goals and objectives by using available resources efficiently and effectively.” Management deals with resources, planning, organization, and delegating tasks; it is the practice of working out the details, making a plan, and ensuring that the plan gets carried out as designed. Management requires critical thinking and excellent attention to detail, but it doesn’t usually demand managers to come up with new and groundbreaking ideas and concepts. Managers provide structure, they ensure that you dot your i’s and cross your t’s, and they make sure that protocols are being followed right down to the last command; because of this, managers often end up being disliked by the people below them, and even highly effective and kind managers will likely have to deal with people trying to challenge their authority. Managers, however, are often somewhat immune to criticism, because they are just “following orders”.   Leadership… Is the ability to of a person of authority to set positive examples, blaze... read more

THE complete beginners guide to reading a nutrition label

I was recently living in Turkey for about 8 weeks and, something that was really difficult was adjusting to the language barrier. I thought, more than a little naively, that a lot of things would have dual turkish and english wording (after all Antalya is a city built on tourism), well I was wrong. I tend to eat pretty clean, and I tend to choose foods high in protein: high in healthy fats,  low in carbs, and foods that are minimally processed… One of the first things I always do before buying something is take a look at the ingredients list and the nutrition facts. In Turkey, that wasn’t easy for me. Not only are the nutrition facts in Turkey listed in Turkish, but the nutrition label is very different… there is no RDA (recommended daily allowance) nicely placed on the package (with a percentage based off of 100%), and the labels are not formatted for a serving size (like ¼ of a box), but rather they are listed in grams or milliliters… As I found myself fumbling through the items on the MIgros shelves (Migros is one of the largest and most popular grocery stores in Turkey), I found myself staring at a label speaking in a language that isn’t my own. I thought to myself “This must be how many people feel back in the States!” Suddenly I could relate to someone who has never read a nutrition label or chosen healthy foods at the market suddenly being sent out into a store with the task to get only healthy foods. It would be a lot like... read more

What gives life meaning?

It is easy to assume that something as complex as a human life must have a purpose. Since our times as children we have found ourselves questioning “why” things happen the way they do so It isn’t hard to imagine that perhaps the first thought ever conceived by man was “why am I here?”. Purpose or meaning actually don’t matter at all until the I is introduced into the equation: it is kind of like the tree that falls in the forest while no one is around to hear it…The whole idea of life needing a purpose is a creation of the mind, without the mind life doesn’t need a purpose. Meaning is a concept of the mind, and so before there was consciousness there was no meaning. So what gives life meaning (aside from consciousness)?     Belief in a higher power (religion) If a carrot is harvested so that you can eat it, then the carrot’s purpose was to sustain you; and if an animal is killed so that you can live, then the animal’s purpose was to keep you alive; with these ideas in mind, it isn’t difficult to see why people might have imagined that there is something bigger than us in the universe. If the world is serving us, then perhaps there is something beyond ourselves that we can also serve. For thousands of years people have dealt with the enormity of existence by using religion to give meaning and purpose to their lives. It makes sense: by believing that we are nothing but cogs in a machine, we free ourselves to perform our... read more

Raise your partner’s priority to take your relationship to the next level

If you want to find one sure-fire way to help out your relationship and let your lover know that they are, in fact, loved then you might want to consider making them a priority. Making someone a priority takes vulnerability, it takes a commitment, and it says a lot about where your affections and loyalties lie; if you want to tell someone you really love them or if you want to move a relationship to the next level, nothings says “I love you” like making someone priority #1.   What does it mean to make someone priority #1? Does making someone a major priority in your life require that you drop everything, including your own desires, in order to please them? No. Does making someone a priority mean that every single second of your existence needs to be devoted to their pleasure and making them happy? Again, No. All that making someone a priority means, is that you put them in your thoughts as number one (or at least high up on the list). Meaning…when a new thought enters your mind, they pop up in that thought shortly after, and that helps you decide what to do next.   Keep #love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.-Oscar Wilde #quotes #happiness #Inspiration — (@MakeYourBstSelf) November 11, 2015   Making someone a priority means that for each new thing that happens, you ask yourself how does “_____” fit into this. Think about it this way…if Jenny is seeing Mark, and Mark wants to make Jenny feel more loved and... read more

One Pan Sun-Dried Tomato and Chicken with Zucchini Noodles

Everyone loves a big bowl of pasta. The problem we often run into is succumbing to our craving while also adhering to a healthy diet. Zucchini noodles are the answer to your pasta desires. They make the perfect spaghetti-like noodle and serve as the perfect vessel for a decadent sauce. During the holiday season, we are all giving into temptation at parties and eating dishes that are definitely on the naughty list. This one pan sun dried tomato and chicken with zucchini noodles is a scrumptious and healthy recipe that will keep you on track between holidays and into the new year. It is comforting with a rich and creamy sun dried tomato sauce- but remember, we are using zucchini noodles so there is a little wiggle room for a thicker sauce. If you don’t have a spiralizer, I highly recommend this one from Williams Sonoma for the most curly and beautiful veggie noodles.                                                                                       Ingredients 2 large zucchini, spiral sliced or julienned 2 chicken breasts, diced 1/2 c sun dried tomatoes, julienned and in oil 2/3 c organic heavy cream 1/2 c chicken broth 2 tbsp grass fed butter 1 tbsp minced garlic 1/2 c fresh basil, finely chopped and divided 1 tbsp dried oregano 1/2 tsp red pepper flakes 1/2 c Parmesan cheese Directions 1. Melt butter over medium heat in a large skillet. Add chicken... read more

How to hard-wire your mind for success

Success doesn’t usually come naturally to us; sure, we might start out with high hopes and goals, but everyone eventually hits roadblocks and obstacles in life. We live in a negative world, where haters run freely, internet trolls torment us with negativity, and even your own friends and family will be quick to tell you that you are crazy for following your dreams. Success is created in baby steps; creating a mind that sees nothing but success takes either a special upbringing or a sort of self brainwashing. The truth is: everywhere you look in life you can see success or failure; you can look at a new start-up and see that they failed to hit their 40 million revenue year goal, or you can say they have a lot of upside potential for growth next year. If you want to wire for your mind for success, it takes some simple steps and a simple choice. So make your decision today…do you want a life of success or a life of failure? “You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it. Period.”-Will Smith (Pursuit of Happiness)     Figure out what “success” means to you The first step in wiring your mind for success is to figure out what success means to you. We live in a world where success could mean anything; it could mean financial success, freedom, a better family life, raising your kids right, or even getting promoted at your job. What does success mean to you,... read more

5 vital things every entrepreneur must know

Entrepreneurship is about being a person who can organize and manage any new enterprise, especially a business, usually with considerable initiative and risk; while being an entrepreneur is risky, many people who choose to entrepreneurship end up finding major success and they end up creating careers that follow their passions; many of them end up blazing completely new trails through society. Being an entrepreneur may be scary, but it can also be very rewarding for those brave enough to tackle the challenge. When I look back at the past year at MakeYourBestSelf it is kind of a blur. Things have happened quickly and gone well at times, and there have been MANY times where I just wanted to give up and throw in the towel. If you have the notion that you are just going to start a business and experience overnight success or get millions of dollars in an instant, then there is a 99.99% chance that you will end up quitting long before those things ever happen. Before you jump into becoming an entrepreneur, I recommend you read this post.   You will need a plan- and hopefully a good one A lot of people think that it takes millions of dollars to start a business or be successful, but the truth is, success can be had only with a great plan and a lot hard work. Some business need high amounts of capital to get started: restaurant’s, physical businesses (think distribution), or labor jobs that require lots of equipment all will require a lot of money up front to get started, but other businesses models like consulting,... read more

Don’t cut the fat: the faults of the low fat diet

When most people think of high fat foods they think of things like fried foods, cheeseburgers, pizza, ice-cream, and bacon…(in best Homer Simpson voice* MMMMMM Bacon, aaaaaaaaaaggggggguu) but not all fats are really bad for you, in fact, a low fat diet might be causing you to miss out on some important health benefits. A lot of people make the mistake of believing that cutting out fat is the best way to lose weight and get healthy, but less fat often means more carbs to take their place. I know going on a low fat diet takes some initiative, and you have to be smart to take care of your health, but there are few things you should know before giving into the low-fat fad. Not only can a diet with moderate to high amounts of fat still be healthy, but it can actually be more healthy than a low fat diet…the trick is finding out the right kinds of fat to eat in order to make the most of your fat intake. Some of the healthy fats that I am referring to can be found in nuts, seeds, fish, dark chocolate, coconuts, olive oil, and avocados; keep reading to find out the benefits of healthy fats and where to get them.   Don’t go wherever the path may lead you, head into the wild and make your own trail. #motivation #success #quotes #growthhacking — (@MakeYourBstSelf) December 1, 2015   Benefits of high fat diet Fats are an essential part of the human diet. Diets lower in carbohydrates and higher in healthy fats can increase insulin sensitivity, decrease... read more

Just one more rep: your growth might just be one step away

How many times have you worked super hard for something just to give up at the very end? How many times have you been on the precipice of success, but just couldn’t get that final bit of lift to finally get on your feet and stand on top of your accomplishment? In life it is often when things are the toughest, when things become unbearable, and when the sky looks darkest that it is almost time for the sunrise in the land of your suffering.   The man who stopped just feet short of gold… There is a famous story about a man who was digging for gold; different versions of the story exist, but one of my favorites is the version told by Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich. As the story goes: there is a man who finds some land with quite a bit of gold thought to be in it; so he borrows money from his friends and family and takes the risk to try and mine the gold from his land. He spends everything he has so he can get the right machinery and start mining for gold. Based off of his calculations, he should strike gold within a couple weeks…but after several months there is still no gold and he quits digging. He tries to recoup some of his losses by selling the machinery he purchased and the land that he owned, but he gets much less than he paid for it. The guy who buys the machinery hires a professional gold prospector and they determine that the gold vein is just several... read more

How laughter can heal your heart and help new love bloom

When was the last time you laughed? Really laughed… For many of us, we may not even remember the last time we had a good laugh with the person that we love; laughter is truly the medicine of the soul and when we neglect making time and lightness to laugh, we miss out on a nourishing part of a great relationship. Many of us tend to be so serious, we take everything as life or death, we stand our ground, and we deal problems with cold calculation, but this lack of lightness of heart can constrict us and limit our ability to love others. Sharing laughs with the person you love makes you feel young and in love, it helps you create good memories, and it decreases stress. Couples who laugh more have more fun, love more deeply,are less stressed, and they argue and nitpick less with each other. If your relationship has been lackluster, if it has grown stale, or if the person you are with makes you feel angry or upset more than they make you smile, then laughter might be exactly what you need more of! Keep #love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.-Oscar Wilde #quotes #happiness #Inspiration — (@MakeYourBstSelf) November 11, 2015 While the jury is still out on what physical effects laughter has on the human body, there is no debate that people who laugh more usually live happier and healthier lives. It is just about impossible to be angry and laugh at the same time, and the more we laugh around... read more

10 things you must know before you decide to follow your dreams

Dreams are real places, but they can also turn into nightmares if you aren’t careful. Sometimes dreams are small and they come easily, and sometimes they take years-even decades- of work. One thing is for sure, there are plenty of dreamers out there, people just like you and me who want to do something big with their life, maybe they have a plan, maybe they are too afraid, maybe they are trying to make it happen; but no matter where you are in your journey, there are a few things you should know about chasing your dreams before you actually start chasing your dreams.   You need a plan Trying to achieve a dream without a plan is a lot like loading a ship with 10 tons of dynamite, turning on the engine, and letting it go out into the sea without a captain or a crew to guide it to where you want it to go. Effort is huge part of the equation and of course getting started is important, but before you try to make a dream come true you need to make a plan. If your plan is to quit everything, sell your possessions, move to L.A., and live out of your car until you make it as an actor, that’s kind of crazy, but it is a plan, and it might just be crazy enough to work. Just realize you aren’t going to get anywhere without some directed action, and directed action requires a plan- even if it’s a crazy one, just think it through first before you start.   It probably won’t be easy... read more



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