How many times have you been told not to compare yourself to others? But why is it so important, why do so many people regularly say “Don’t compare yourself to others?”.
In all honesty, nothing positive can truly come from comparing yourself to others, and it will almost always leave you feeling either downtrodden and dejected, or it could even leave you feeling over confident and poised for a fall.
One thing’s for sure, comparing yourself to others isn’t helpful or productive, so why do it at all? So here are 8 reasons that comparing yourself to others is totally and completely stupid.
- Everyone is unique
Truth be told, everybody is different. Sure people may have similarities, they may have things in common, and they may even share a ton of like qualities alike, but they are still ultimately different people.
Comparing yourself to someone else is like comparing an apple to an orange, you might be able to say which one you prefer, but which is better, and what measurements are you using to gauge which one is really better?
Just like you can’t say definitively that an apple is better than orange, you can’t say that one person is better than another: it really just boils down to two totally different things that you truly can’t compare.
- Life isn’t a race against others, it’s a race against time.
Comparing yourself to others is treating life like a competition against others, and that just isn’t what life is all about. We can choose to compete with others, but life doesn’t care where you are in relation to others, and chances are, whether you are the very best at something, or somewhere near the bottom, you will probably still feel about the same about yourself.
Life isn’t a race where we compete against all the other players, it is head to head race against time, and time is our main enemy. Time is the only thing that can stop you from reaching your goals, the only thing lost every second that you aren’t getting further; take time out of the equation and anything is possible-anything.
Other people are players in the same game, but time is the only thing you should be racing against.
- Other people might be at different life stages
Comparing yourself to others is unfair to yourself because you may be comparing yourself to someone who is in a totally different stage in life. You may be looking at someone and feeling envious of all the success they are experiencing financially, but you can’t see the fact that they may have been even more broke than you are today, and they may have been suffering financially for years to get where they are today.
Every person is in their own individual race against time, and when you compare yourself to them, you aren’t taking into account the bigger picture of what stage in their own race that they are. Perhaps your journey is just beginning and you are comparing yourself to someone who has been into their journey for years. There are many different phases and seasons of life, and there is no telling which one you are in today, or which one someone else will be in tomorrow.
You can’t compare a seed in a package to an ear of corn growing on a stalk, they just aren’t the same thing.
- Other people have had different life experiences
Just like you can’t see what stage in life you and the people you compare yourself against are in, you can’t tell what someone else has already been through. Maybe you had a very tough life- born in a ghetto to abusive parents- and maybe the people you are comparing yourself against were born with a silver spoon in their mouth.
It is hard to compare yourself to others, because their experiences and life lessons have been totally different than yours. It just isnt fair to you or to others to try and compare two totally different people.
- Do you really want to be just like someone else in every way?
If you had the choice to give up who you are, everything that makes you who you are, everything you love, and everything that you have in order to switch places with someone else would you do it?
The vast majority of us would never trade who we are in order to become someone else, and while we my want to be more like others, we still want to be us. We are hardwired for survival, and we are born with a strange connection to ourselves and our minds. If you wouldn’t trade who you are today to become someone else, then what good is comparing yourself to someone else?
For all your faults, all your mistakes and shortcomings, you are who you are, and you need to learn to love the person that you are today, so that you can become an even better version of yourself tomorrow.
- Your dreams aren’t the same as someone else’s dreams
One man’s trash is another man’s treasure; what you want to spend the rest of your life doing may provide no satisfaction at all to someone else. For example: I think Steve Jobs was awesome, and I look up to him for so many reasons, but the reality is, I don’t want to be Steve Jobs; I don’t want to make computers for a living or spend decades developing new technology.
The dreams of our heroes may not be the same dreams that we share, so how can you compare two different people with two different dreams?
- Everything can change at any moment
The person at the top today can wake up tomorrow morning in the gutter: that is just reality. Life can be tough and unforgiving, and no matter who you are, no matter how successful you are, no matter what you have been through, everything can change at any moment. Don’t spend your time comparing yourself to someone when you could both change positions at any second. If you are high today, you might find yourself soon at the bottom, and those at the bottom may soon be at the top, you just can’t predict it so don’t try.
- You are ultimately just wasting time
Comparing yourself to others takes valuable time and energy that you could spend getting yourself into a better situation, so rather than comparing yourself to someone else, just get yourself to work creating the things that you wish you had in life. Every thought that isn’t focused on becoming better and getting you further into the race against time is a wasted thought.
What someone has done, what they own, what they look like, or how they carry themselves when others are watching is not what makes someone who they are. It is the quiet moments, it is how you behave when the spotlight is off that truly defines who you are.
Take a look around you and realize that you are everything that you need to get anything you could ever want. Within you is a limitless potential that can grow, evolve, and accomplish anything that can be imagined. Just stop comparing yourself to others and take that first step towards the person you want to become.
What do you think? Do you spend a lot of time comparing yourself to others, and what other reasons can you think of that make comparing yourself to others a total waste of time? Leave a comment below and join the conversation, I would love to hear from you!