When it comes to the one’s we love, it is easy to neglect them and forget about our relationships. We have to make relationships a priority if we want them to last for years. Part of why people used to stay married for 50+ years is because they understood that even though you might love someone very much, it takes a lot of work to keep it going.
Love is like a fire from a lightning strike, it starts suddenly, spectacularly, and it’s totally random and out of your control; it starts as a small fire that can turn into an inferno as you start investing more love and effort into the relationship, but as you get used to the warmth of the fire you gradually stop tending it, until one day your love has reduced into nothing but an ember and it dies.
If you want to keep your love alive, try any of these 25 things to help your relationship today.
- Say “I love you” like you mean it.
All of us have mumbled “I love you” as we walked out the door to work or headed off to go do something, but when was the last time you really said I love you to someone? Try telling your lover how much you love them, what it feels like, how they make your heart feel, or how valuable they are to you. Don’t just tell them you love them, but really think about what life would be like without them and tell them why you love them.
- Take a walk
Go for a walk together, get away from the stress, and enjoy nature or the weather outside. Its nice to be alone and just get away from it all sometimes.
- Ask about their day
We often get so caught up in what is going on in our own days that we don’t stop to think about how things are going for our lovers. Ask them how their day went and see if anything interesting happened, they will appreciate you listening and showing genuine interest.
- Surprise them with a gift
Everyone likes gifts, they make you feel excited, appreciated, and happy. If you want to make your lover feel happy and appreciated, then surprise them with a gift, even something small like their favorite candy or a book is a wonderful way to say I love you.
- Do something to save them time or effort
Taking a few minutes to do something like clean someone’s dishes, pay a bill, or anything else that would save them a little time and effort is a great way to let a person know that they are on your mind. Like a gift, doing a small task for someone lets them know that they are on your mind and that you care. Show them that you care by doing something small for them.
- Do something romantic
While cleaning dishes or bringing home some flowers is certainly romantic, you can also go out of your way to create a special romantic experience for your lover as well. Try cooking a candle light dinner, surprising them with a date or trip, or just trying doing whatever gets the romantic juices flowing for your lover.
- Offer to answer any 3 questions they want to know
Try telling your partner out of the blue that you would like to answer any 3 questions that they have about you or your life that they don’t know. Not only is it fun to anticipate and try to figure out something about your partner that you don’t know, but you can actually get closer in the process.
- Say you are sorry
If you have done something wrong, even if it wasn’t something recent, try telling your partner that you are sorry and that you really love them; let them know that you are feeling bad for the way that things went down and you apologize for hurting them.
- Let them know how much they mean to you
Tell your partner how special they are to you, let them know what life would be like without them; you can even tell them that you feel like being without them is like living without air if you mean it. Its nice to feel special and appreciated, and they will appreciate it too.
- Go on a date
Try asking your lover out on a date just like you did when you first met. Say “Would you like to go on a date with me to ______ on Saturday night?”. Not only is asking your lover out on a date cute, but it might even bring back some old memories of the good old days.
- Work out together
Getting into a fitness routine with your partner is an excellent way to bond together, and spend time together doing something meaningful, but it also betters you both individually. The more attractive and confident the two of you are and the better you both feel, the more you are going to love each other.
- Set a goal together
Sit down with your partner and make a goal together. Plan a holiday and plan to save the money by a certain date, plan to have a child, plan a house, plan a career change or more education. Set a goal together and work together until it’s done.
- Take a class together
Try taking a class together, something like dancing, martial arts, fitness, or rock climbing. It could be any type of class at all, but just doing something together in a class setting with others having fun can be a great opportunity to bond together.
- Visit their family
A lot of people value family very highly on their priorities list, so if you want to strengthen a relationship, make an effort to get closer to your partners family and they will probably start seeing you as an extension of their family. Family is often over everything, so them thinking of you as family is definitely a good thing.
- Next time they ask for something, do it!
Make a resolution that the next time your lover asks for something you will do it. Whether it’s take out the trash,watch a movie, or go on a trip together, whatever it is: say yes.
- Start off the day by saying something nice
Try starting out the brand new day with saying something really nice and thoughtful. Let your love know how attractive they are, how nice they look, or how great their mind is, trust me, it is a great way to start the day off.
- Give them a compliment
Do you think your lover looks great in that special outfit? Try telling them. Just let them know that whatever they are doing is great, it will be a nice little boost to your relationship.
- Ask for a small favor
Asking for a small favor is a great way to gently encourage your partner to invest more into your relationship, but be careful about asking for a bunch of favors if you aren’t ready to return the favor.
- Tell them thank you for something they did
When your partner does that little favor for you, surprises you with something romantic, or gives you that nice compliment, try telling them thank you. Really make their efforts seem noticed and appreciated, and it will encourage them to do even more.
- Tell them what you love about them
Take a few minutes to let your partner know what you love about them. Tell them how great their strong qualities are and how much they contribute your life. not only does it make them feel appreciated, but it will encourage them to keep doing more of the same.
- Go get some cheesy photos taken together
Go to goodwill, buy some old holiday sweaters and coke bottle glasses, and get a photo taken together. Taking a professional silly photo is a fun way to create a little bit of love, and leave an awesome memory on your table for your friends to laugh at when they come over.
- Go on an adventure
Go on a road trip, travel somewhere unexpected, conquer something new. Adventures are fun and they build memories that strengthen your feelings of love for your partner. Not to mention, travels are often one of our greatest memories.
- Overcome a fear
If there is something that you or your partner are really scared of, try conquering it together. Scared of heights? Bungee jump or skydive. Scared of speaking in public? Go to a toastmasters meeting together. Just find something one of you fear and beat it together, you will never forget it.
- Try something new
Trying something new is an adventure in itself. Everything doesn’t always have to be epic though, just trying out a new restaurant or watching a new movie can be a fun way to do something together and spend quality time alone.
- Read a relationship book
Buy a book about relationships and read it together. Not only will it broaden your mind, but it will help you see what is really important, learn to communicate better, and deepen your love you can try these books if you want:
Your relationship is important, if it wasn’t then you wouldn’t be reading this article, so in a world of divorce, break-ups, and pain, defy the odds and create a lasting love like the days of old.
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