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You will NEVER be happy unless you learn this one thing

You will NEVER be happy unless you learn this one thing

“What are you waiting for? You’re faster than this. Don’t think you are, know you are. Come on, stop trying to hit me and hit me.”- Morpheus   Skip to 3:44 for the good part   I was having a discussion with someone the other day about a principle that after years of positive thinking, self improvement, and personal challenge that I have finally learned for myself: Unless you can learn to be happy right now: happy with who and what you are, happy with everything you have, and happy with everything in your life then you will NEVER be happy. I’ve been reading books for years that tell you to be happy now, live in the moment, and learn to appreciate what you have but even though I was reading the words…it never really stuck as a lesson that I could apply in my own life.   Be one of the few that actually live. A photo posted by @makeyourbestself on Jan 8, 2016 at 3:08pm PST I lean towards being a perfectionist: I want EVERYTHING to be perfect first, and then everything will be ok…maybe you can relate? Whether I am preparing to tackle a new project, starting a new venture, or just trying to get ready for my next BJJ tournament I have always wanted to be over prepared. When I was competing frequently I was confident in my ability, but if I felt like one single thing wasn’t perfect then I wasn’t ready: it was a little chip in my confidence that killed my ability to win consistently and perform up to my full potential....
How a few simple questions can change your life

How a few simple questions can change your life

Did you do your best today to be the type of person that you want to be, and did you do your best to make the kinds of decisions today that will take your life towards the kind of life you would like to live tomorrow? Imagine those words staring back at you at the end of each day on a page of paper that you must answer each night before you go to bed.   Measure each day not by failure or success but by gradual improvement. If at the end of the day you are better, if you learned something, or if you have become a better person, then the day was a success. Try to think more of these small daily improvements and eventually you will achieve great victories. A photo posted by @makeyourbestself on Sep 14, 2015 at 2:33pm PDT   Using questions like these can have innumerable benefits for us in our daily lives and it can help lead us into the type of life that we want to live. There are few questions more important than these in life: What type of person do I want to be? AND What type of life do I want to live? Answer these questions and suddenly each moment takes on a new and powerful meaning…each day becomes not a time where we get lost in momentary pleasures and instant gratification, but it becomes a proving ground where we decide if we will take one step closer to becoming the person we desire to be, or if we will take another step away from that person.  ...
Get unstuck and beat the odds: a new approach to accomplishing change

Get unstuck and beat the odds: a new approach to accomplishing change

One all too frequently overlooked component of success is a person’s environment. For instance: take a look at your own life and imagine something that you are successful at- or something that you aren’t- then imagine the circumstances and the people around you that have contributed to those successes or failures. While growing up in poverty doesn’t exactly ensure lifelong poverty, the truth remains that growing up poor increases your chances of dying poor as well. Many people like to claim that we are all products of our own environment, and to an extent it IS true…just not in the way most of us like to think of it as.   There are 2 primary mindsets that prevent people from being able to change: the belief that they are helpless to change (products of their environment, or not able to change their situation), and then there are those that believe that they can change, but they never take steps to change their environment. Facts are facts; the odds say that unless you change your environment you won’t change. New roads don’t get built by driving the existing ones, new muscles don’t get built by not using the ones that you have, and money doesn’t get saved by spending more than you have. Your beliefs and actions create your life, but your environment has a VERY strong influence over those beliefs and actions. Keep reading to see the full truth: that if you want to change, you need to change your environment. Let us take a look at the two types of people who want to change but fail to...
I was amazed when I found out the truth about new year resolutions, you will be too

I was amazed when I found out the truth about new year resolutions, you will be too

Today is January 14th, 2016…It has officially been 2 weeks since people started their new year’s resolutions for 2016. I recently came across some interesting stats on new year’s resolutions: about 45% of people usually make new year’s resolutions; out of this 45% only around 8% are ever successful at achieving their new year’s goals and 24% of those people report that they NEVER achieve their new year’s resolutions despite making them each year. Also of note, the people who make clearly defined and SMART new years goals are 10 times more likely to succeed then the people who make ambiguous or uncertain goals. The stats also go on to tell us that over ¼ of the people who made new year’s resolutions for 2016 have already given up- hopefully you aren’t one of them! Then after 1 month, ⅓ of people who made resolutions will have given up… and past six months, less than ½ of the people of the people who started 2016 with resolutions will still continue on towards their goals   So if you made a resolution or resolutions for this year, then you need to seriously ask yourself if you are going to be in the half that succeeds, or the half that fails. Are you really ready to beat the odds and be one of 8% that actually achieves the goal? New year’s resolutions are like any other goal: they require a continual commitment to actually succeed. It isn’t enough to write down your goals and stick the paper in some drawer long ago forgotten by everyone, you have to remember your goals,...
Stop wanting things and start having them instead

Stop wanting things and start having them instead

Can you list at least 10 things that you want? I bet you can name off a list of things pretty quickly without much extra consideration, but consider this: what if all that “wanting” things is actually stopping you from having them? What if you thinking about the things that you wish that you had is actually preventing you from ever getting them?   Wanting… Wanting something isn’t too far off from just wishing that you could have it. Who doesn’t want to travel the world, own a mansion, drive around in a Bentley, and tell the credit card companies to bug off? What about the desire to get fit or lose a few pounds? Have you ever wanted to lose little bit of belly fat, tone up, or get jacked? No someone that has been wanting to lose a few pounds for more than just a few years? One thing is for sure: wanting something doesn’t do anything to actually make it happen for you. Saying “I want” is too uncertain, it’s too wishful, and it gives you just enough permission to think “Gee, wouldn’t that be nice?”   How our language affects our success.   What you want doesn’t really matter until you start to take the responsibility to actually start creating it in your own life. That big-screen TV isn’t going to buy itself, that 6 pack stomach isn’t going to appear over-night. Anything that you could possibly “want” in life needs to be created, not just wanted for. Believe in yourself and anything is possible! https://t.co/h6r53D0rBQ #motivation #growthhacking #success pic.twitter.com/VWMfQDcGKv — Makeyourbestself.com (@MakeYourBstSelf) December 12,...

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