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10 traits of confident people.

10 traits of confident people.

What is confidence? Confidence is often mistaken for ego, and at times, it can be difficult to differentiate the two from each other, but there are some distinct differences. Ego comes into play when a person has low self esteem and or low confidence in themselves. As self esteem decreases, ego often increases in order to preserve a person’s well being. Guys walking around with their chests puffed out, driving expensive cars, or flaunting their money does not equal confidence, but it does often correlate with an increased ego (an attempt to feel better about themselves through false means).  Women who shop only the most expensive labels, hang out all day being pampered at spas or salons, or who post endless selfies of themselves on instagram to gain likes from others, are usually the most insecure, and come with the lowest self esteem and biggest egos. Confidence comes from an internal place of knowing who you are, what you like, what is most important to you, and from knowing where you stand as a person; ego comes from ambivalence about who you are, a lack of clarity, and a lack of values and integrity. A confident person’s self worth comes from living a life that pleases them (because they are in alignment with their values and standards), while ego comes from feeling lost and exposed in a harsh world with nothing to hold onto. Ego grasps desperately at worldly things, accomplishments, and images to define a person’s worth, while confidence comes from the knowledge that you are perfect as you are and as long as you maintain your integrity,...
Manhood (by Terry Crews)- Book review

Manhood (by Terry Crews)- Book review

Terry Crews (better known as old spice guy, or the dude from white chicks) recently released a book titled- simply- Manhood. I wanted to give it a read because of how I see him as a person. I have been on my own search for manhood recently, and here is a guy who is huge, macho, and an ex pro football player, yet he plays these silly roles in movies and is always goofing around and having fun. Traditionally I often think of manhood as stoicism, being calm, collected, unemotional, and the “rational male”, yet Terry Crews is a very masculine individual despite breaking from the norm. I was so intrigued, that I bought his book right after it came out, and I loved it! I was looking for a book that would describe what manhood was, that might tell me how to be a better man, but instead the book was a biography of Terry’s life, with bits of wisdom thrown in. In the sense that the book was not a how to guide to manhood, I was disappointed, but perhaps the best way to be a man is to simply follow the men that you admire. If you are looking for a how to guide to manhood, or if you are searching for a philosophical journey through the life of a man, then you need to look elsewhere; but, if you want to see an awesome example of what people are capable of, how dedication and hard work can overcome life’s obstacles, and if you want to read the story of a man unafraid to bare all...
Shaved Brussels Sprout Salad with Honey Mustard Dressing

Shaved Brussels Sprout Salad with Honey Mustard Dressing

  I love a hearty salad in the summertime and this one packs a ton of flavor. Crispy crumbled bacon is nestled in shaved brussels sprouts with sweet raisins and crunchy walnuts. This salad has a great sweet and savory combo and makes a great side dish to entrees.  The dressing is easy to whip up with only four ingredients and continues the sweet and savory combination featuring tangy mustard and honey. Brussels sprouts are a nutrition powerhouse. They are a member of the cruciferous vegetable family, high in vitamins C and K, choline, copper, folate and fiber. These nutritious sprouts are also very versatile; enjoy them raw, roasted, steamed, grilled, whole, sliced or shaved. For Salad 4 c chopped Brussels Sprouts 1/2 c raisins 1/3 c chopped walnuts 2 strips of bacon, cooked For Dressing 2 tbsp olive oil 2 tbsp red wine vinegar 1 tbsp honey 1 tbsp dijon or yellow mustard While bacon cooks, finely chop Brussels sprouts and add to a large bowl. In a small bowl, whisk ingredients for dressing together. Once bacon is cooked, allow to crisp up on a paper towel, then coarsely chop. Add bacon, raisins and walnuts to Brussels sprouts, top with dressing and mix well. Refrigerate until...
How to add value into a realtionship: the economics of love.

How to add value into a realtionship: the economics of love.

In a world full of constant taking, many of us live with a ““What can the world do for me?” attitude, and while that may work for some things, it certainly won’t work for very long in a relationship. It is sort of natural for us to get used to things, and even those of us lucky enough to be in great relationships are often guilty of growing complacent and neglecting to contribute value back into our relationships and our lover’s life. So how can we keep a relationship alive, help keep our partners happy, and most of all, how can we challenge our partner to grow while simultaneously accepting our own opportunity to grow as a person?   A relationship is a lot like a bank… When you first get into a relationship it’s like opening a new account, since you don’t know each other very well, there is very little invested into the account of your love. It just takes that first initial deposit to get started, but we all know it takes more to really build a bank account. Every kind deed or word, every kiss, every fond memory and smile, they all add up in your relationships combined account, and every malicious word or look, every dirty look and bad memory all withdraw from it. In the beginning, we are afraid to lose our initial investment, so we start making deposits constantly. We usually start being our best self, we are kinder than we normally are, more positive than we normally are, more spontaneous and alive than we usually are, and then we eventually feel...
Positive paradigms- Abundance mentality

Positive paradigms- Abundance mentality

Imagine a world where everything you gave away came back to you, and sometimes doubled.  If you committed to giving away help, advice, money, and time to others, everything you put into the world would come back to you multiplied exponentially.   Welcome to a world of a abundance. In a world of abundance we can give freely, love fully, and help others in need, because we know eventually everything will come back around.   Many of us live life like a starving person.   We hold on tightly to love and affection afraid to give it to others who will lie or mistreat us. We cling onto money, opportunities, and our egos because we are afraid of anything that might take these things away from us.   If you had 5 dollars and you believed that it was the last 5 dollars you would ever own, you would be hard pressed to loan it out to someone else in need, and so for those of us who believe that opportunity is limited, we hold on tight to what we have.   Most people who are poor are forced to live paycheck to paycheck live with a strong grip on their money. Losing 100$ might be the difference between paying rent and getting evicted, but people with excess often create more excess by using their extra money to invest in new opportunites.   If we believe that the job we have is the only job we can ever get, we may cherish it more, but we will often be too afraid to leave it for another opportunity. Our fear...

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