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Are your current relationship problems your fault?

Are your current relationship problems your fault?

I want to apologize to you first things, because the title of this post was a little misleading.   This how to guide is actually a trick, because if there is something wrong in your relationship then you are most definitely at fault in some way.   Either you aren’t living up to your own standards, you aren’t respecting yourself to not be with a certain type of person, or you aren’t doing all of the things that you should be doing to make your relationship better.   If you even have to wonder if you are responsible for your relationship troubles, then you most certainly are in a way, but before you leave a nasty comment, read the post and then you can tell me if you still hate me at the end.   Relationships are a two way street.   That means it takes effort from two people in order to make a relationship work.  Now that being said, there are also going to be problems that arise and they are going to come from both people as well.   It is important to note, the only wrong things in a relationship are the things that both of you have sat down and mutually agreed are wrong.   So if you think being messy is wrong, but your partner doesn’t see messiness as a problem, then guess what?  It is not wrong, but if you both talk about it and agree that being messy is wrong, yet they make a mess anyway, then you might have a problem.   So what have we established so far?  It...
Why you must be ready for success, before you will ever obtain it.

Why you must be ready for success, before you will ever obtain it.

If you didn’t see it already, then it’s already gone.   Opportunities come and go like the seasons, at each second we must learn to stay ready to take whatever chances come our way.  Success is many times just standing up one more time than life knocks us down, but another vital component to success is being ready for the moment when it presents itself.   Let’s say that your lifelong goal is to own a major share of an NFL sports team, if you truly want to accomplish your goal, then there are a lot of things you need to make happen BEFORE your dream can become a reality.   You’ll need the right connections (know the right people to make a deal happen when one comes up), you’ll need enough money (you’ll need the money it takes to buy in to a major sports team, and you need to do whatever it takes each day to make sure that you have both of these assets as soon as humanly possible.   There might me a team for sale right now, but without enough money and without the right connections you won’t be able to make it happen… equals missed opportunity.  You might save up several million dollars in 10 years and if a team goes on sale again, but without the right connections you can’t make it happen… equals missed opportunity.  You might make all the friends in the world, but if you don’t have the money you need to purchase enough leverage in the team… equals missed opportunity.   This is why a lot of people...
How to get motivated and stay motivated using the 5 rules of motivation.

How to get motivated and stay motivated using the 5 rules of motivation.

Motivation is literally the reason that we do everything in life that we do, and quite frankly, everything has a motivation, even the things you don’t want.   If you often find yourself wasting away your time and never getting anything done, there is something, motivating you deep down to behave this way; if you constantly spend money you don’t have and end up with mountains of debt, there is something motivating you to do so.   Every single thing we do has a motivation behind it,  so is lack of motivation really the reason so many of us fail to achieve what we want in life?   I have heard a lot of people tell me “Shane, I want to ______”, and you can fill in the blank, “but  I’m just not motivated enough to do it.”   There is a way to find the motivation to make positive changes in your life and to kickstart a whole new level of personal growth and mental expansion, and all it takes a is a little bit of conscious effort and focus on your part.   There are two primary types of motivation: intrinsic and extrinsic.   These two types of motivation determine pretty much every single thing you do in life. You could basically say that your entire life is the result of your motivations and which ones are strongest.   Intrinsic motivation   Intrinsic motivation is motivation that comes from within.  Intrinsic motivation either: fulfills a personal need or desire, or calls you to do something in order to maintain your values or beliefs.   The more urgent...
35 fun and unconventional ways to get more exercise.

35 fun and unconventional ways to get more exercise.

Want to get more fit, but hate lifting weights, running, and hitting the treadmill?   Seriously, it can be tough committing to working out, especially when you hate what you are doing to get fit, so finding ways to enjoy what you are doing is a great way to improve your health and fitness level.   Read our list of 35 fun and unconventional ways to get fit and get more exercise!   Go for a hike. Hiking is a great workout, not only do you have to walk up hills, put in good mileage, and sometimes navigate difficult terrain, but you get a great view at the same time.  Head out to your local park, nature refuge, or walking trail and see what is out there!   Play disc golf Disc golf is a lot like golf, except you use a frisbee instead of hitting a ball.  When playing a game of disc golf, you will spend time walking, and you will use energy throwing your discs at the basket in front of you.  Disc golf is incredibly fun and challenges you to make improvement in your technique which only adds to the reward you feel at the end of a game.   Play ultimate frisbee We used to play ultimate frisbee each Friday as our cross country practice for the day, and I can honestly say I got more tired playing frisbee then I did from running some days.  In ultimate frisbee you pass the frisbee to your teammates and try to score a touchdown.  You can run unlimitedly when you don’t have the frisbee, but you...
We become the stories we tell: let go of the past to write a better future.

We become the stories we tell: let go of the past to write a better future.

When you were a kid, did you ever make up a story about something that happened to impress a friend or someone you knew?   Most of us went through this at some point growing up, and the more times you told the story, it eventually felt almost like the truth, in fact, you might have actually come to believe the story you were telling over time; facts started to blur, times and places became hazy until you eventually stored your little fib as a real memory.   So if even something made up can become a real memory over time, how do you think that our perceptions and beliefs affects our memories, our past, and even who we are today and who we will become tomorrow?   Think about a court case.   There will be multiple witnesses who all tell a different account about what they saw, despite being in the exact same place and at the same time.  It seems crazy, but our memories are made up of our interpretations of events, not the actual events themselves.   Often times we may not remember the fine details of an event, but we almost always remember how we feel, and over time we may start filling in those gaps with made up details based off of how we felt.   It is kind of like the old game we played as kids, where you all sit in a circle and one person starts a sentence at one end of the circle, and by the time it reaches back to them the story is not the same at...

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