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Resentment: the silent killer of connection.

Resentment: the silent killer of connection.

If you have ever been angry with someone before, then you have experienced- first hand- the effects of resentment. Resentment can be likened to a thorn that is stuck into your favorite pair of jeans: it starts out as a small stick, and slowly it rubs back and forth and finally becomes a wound; eventually all you can think about is the thorn and  you’ll throw out the jeans completely if you can’t pull out the thorn. Resentment starts with anger, disappointment, or jealousy. When we have certain expectations of someone, and they don’t fulfil our expectations, usually a little bit of resentment is formed. When we ask someone to do something for us and they fail to follow through for us, we will normally feel a little anger towards that person, and as the anger settles, it turns into a little seed of resentment. We hold onto the resentment inside of our hearts until next time it happens again, but this time we are already looking for it to happen again- our guards are up. What was a little anger last time, becomes a little more this time and like a snowball rolling down a hill, every time this person lets us down, we add a little more resentment into our heart. Eventually it rolls so fast that it consumes us. Resentment is dangerous, because it happens quietly inside our heart; it can ruin relationships, because resentment allows even a small issue to become an avalanche that wipes away everything in its path. We see the behaviors we dislike, we get angry, we store resentment, next time we add more, the time after even more,...
How to change pain into personal power.

How to change pain into personal power.

Have you ever experienced, or are you currently experiencing overwhelming emotional pain or difficulty?   I know I have, actually, I spend a decent amount of my life in pain and discomfort.  There have been many times, especially in the last year, I have been so overwhelmed I wanted to quit, I almost didn’t want to go on living any longer.  I felt like I couldn’t handle the pressure, the pain, and the uncertainty.  You know the feeling right?  When you can barely stand life the way it is, when you become overwhelmed with fear of the unknown, or you can’t seem to get over how difficult things are for you, sometimes it feels like the entire world is out to get you.   I have learned a few tricks that have allowed me to turn my personal feelings of pain, discontent, and desperation into a powerful tool that drives me to achieve more and accomplish tasks that I once believed were impossible.  This article will show you how to use the same tricks to greatly increase your happiness, effectiveness, and potential.   I want to start out by showing you a few examples of pain, just to set the context for what I am about to tell you.     Example 1:  Weightlifting: when you lift weights it is hard, uncomfortable, and many times painful; if you stay consistent and continue to push through the difficult workouts, eventually your body will change for the better and you will become healthier and usually look better too.   Example 2: Starting your own business: when you start your own business,...
The top 8 tips for a more productive day.

The top 8 tips for a more productive day.

Do you spend your days moving from one meaningless activity to the next: surfing youtube, talking to friends, watching people cross the street from your office window?  If you are guilty of: wasting time, getting less done in a day than you meant to, missing opportunities, hitting the snooze button 2000 times per morning, or never producing anything in your life of value- you might want to read on below.   1.Get more sleep. Many of us fail to get the the necessary amount of sleep each day.  Most experts recommend anywhere from 6-8 hours per night of quality sleep in order to perform at our best.  Waking up groggy sucks, and laying in bed with the snooze alarm beckoning you back to dreamland is a sure fire way to start off your day in the dumps and kill your motivation.  Getting in your Zs will help you wake up invigorated and ready to “Carpe Diem baby”!   2.Do something productive first thing every morning. Completing a task, writing a letter, reading, exercising, making a daily schedule, or watching inspirational videos can all start your day out on the road to success.  Our days often have momentum, and if we start out by wasting time or thinking about how we don’t want to face another day, then chances are, those thoughts are going to carry into the rest of our days.  Getting something done first thing will often leave you feeling accomplished and ready to go get other important things done.   3.Designate working times and relaxation times. Studies have concluded that people work best in short bursts with...
Thai Takeout Fake-Out Cauliflower Rice

Thai Takeout Fake-Out Cauliflower Rice

Who doesn’t love to indulge in some delicious takeout now and then? The problem with a lot of takeout (most actually) is the high sodium levels and low levels of actual quality ingredients. Well, now you can have all the flavor of delicious Thai rice with an abundance of health boosting benefits. You could probably eat this entire dish for a fraction of the calories in a typical takeout meal. That is because we are using cauliflower rice as a substitute for cooked rice. This lowers the carb content and adds great fiber and antioxidants. All of your daily recommended vitamin C is in one cup of cauliflower. The recipe also happens to be vegan, but the meat eaters could add grilled chicken, steak or fish to amp up the protein even more. This is not to say that we all won’t still indulge in delicious takeout cuisine, but with this recipe you can calm your craving with the satisfaction of knowing you made the healthier choice. Enjoy! FOR RICE 1 head of cauliflower, broken into florets 1 c carrots, julienned 1/2 c frozen peas 1/2 c frozen edamame 1 tsp minced garlic 1 tsp minced ginger 1/2 c bean sprouts 1/3 c green onion, thinly sliced 1 handful cilantro, chopped FOR SAUCE 1/4 c peanut butter, I used chunky 2 tbsp sesame oil 2 tbsp lime juice 1/2 tsp chili flakes, optional 1 tbsp coconut aminos or soy sauce In a food processor, pulse cauliflower until it becomes the consistency of rice. In a large pan, combine cauliflower, peas, carrots, garlic and ginger. Cook over medium heat until...
Do diet pills work?

Do diet pills work?

An all too frequent question I get asked by people trying to lose weight is this: “Do diet pills work?”.  Whenever I start talking to people about losing weight one of the first things they ask about is a diet pill, a crash diet, or some other sort of instant fix.  Ask yourself this question: “How many diseases, problems, or issue are solved by one quick and easy solution?”.  If you take a look at most things in life, you will find they are quite complicated, most problems are the result of multiple compounded issues and can’t just be solved with one quick fix.  So do diet pills work?   When it comes to obesity or being overweight, what causes these issues?     Obesity and being overweight is usually caused by a combination of factors including: stress, depression, food addiction, lack of exercise, nervous eating, lack of sleep, and poor diet.  So if you don’t eat right, don’t workout, don’t get enough sleep, eat constantly, and feel so depressed you don’t believe you can lose weight, will you lose weight?  The answer is no.  Even if you woke up tomorrow and had your perfect ideal body, it probably wouldn’t be long until you get back to your current self, because your daily habits promote weight gain not weight loss.   Why am I helpless to lose weight?   You are helpless to lose weight because you are a slave to the habits that I have listed above.  Even if a diet pill allows you to burn an extra 300 calories a day, if everything else stays the same,...

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