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Does your partner drive you crazy?  A difference in communication might be to blame.

Does your partner drive you crazy? A difference in communication might be to blame.

Have you ever been in love with a person and no matter how hard you tried to explain something to them they never seemed to get it?  Maybe you even told them directly that you did or said something because you love them, yet they are hurt and angered by your behavior.  We all know love can make you feel crazy, but what is to blame when we do our best for someone and they still get hurt by it?  Often times, communication styles are to blame for these confusing and frustrating arguments.   “That’s not what I meant” is an excellent book that covers communication styles and how they affect relationships.  Most of us are aware of things like tone, volume, and the words we say; we are also usually aware that saying even a nice thing in the wrong tone can upset someone or be perceived badly, but some arguments can occur because of the way we communicate- not by our words or how we speak them.  Communication style means the way in which we communicate our feelings, thoughts, and needs.  There are many different ways of communication: verbal, non verbal, direct, indirect, passive and aggressive.   Depending upon how you were raised, your friends, and your beliefs, you develop your communication style.  For example:  If you were raised in a household with parents who were passive then you may consider being direct or loud very rude.  You could naturally become soft spoken, and being polite -in your opinion- would include: talking quietly, not asking or telling directly, waiting your turn to talk, and asking permission.  In...
Redefine yourself and be whatever you want.

Redefine yourself and be whatever you want.

Throughout our lives we are presented with many opportunities that require a high amount of energy output from us, sometimes they require us to rise to an occasion and do something we never thought we could.  These are the times when life presents us with an opportunity so rewarding that we act without thinking too much about the process, instead we just do what we need to. High pressure situations can sometimes bring out the best in us.  Of course, there are many times that excess pressure makes us break down, but most of us have heard stories of people lifting cars off of loved ones in order to save them from death.  There will be times in everyone’s lives when they are faced with a situation where failure is not an option, and so we act with utmost purpose, utmost care. We hear stories every day of people who overcome incredible odds, or rise from terrible situations to make huge success.  Cancer survivors who change their lives into miracles, near death survivors who find incredible new passion for life, overweight people who lose hundreds of pounds, or poor kids who grow up and become millionaires.  You can do it too, even without being faced with some major opportunity or life changing event. We tend to carry around beliefs about ourselves, we carry them around with us like baggage at an airport; they weigh us down, make us heavy and slow, make it hard to react quickly.  The baggage you carry does not define you: you are not your past experiences, you are not the way you speak, you...
Why saving money is a habit of successful people.

Why saving money is a habit of successful people.

Successful people realize that opportunities come in unpredictable ways and times.  Often the only difference between success and failure is how ready the receiver of opportunity is to make it happen.  Finances, like the rest of life, are no different: the people who position themselves in a place of strength are not only better suited to whether difficult times, but they are more prepared to make opportunities become success stories.   Saving money can be likened to anything else that requires discipline.  Sure, there are a million things to buy or do right now with that extra 100$ left of your paycheck, but will they really help you in life, or will they just temporarily offer you superficial happiness?   Saving money allows us several things:   When we save extra money the surplus money in our savings account becomes a shield that protects us against hardship and adversity.  The 5 grand in your saving account saves your house when you get laid off, buys you a new furnace when yours goes haywire, or fixes the transmission on your car when it goes bad.  Having extra money on hand allows us to roll with life’s obstacles and continue on unhampered.  However, for the person without savings to spare, any of these instances can cause extreme hardship, stress, and loss.   Saving money also allows us to poise ourselves for great opportunities.  Imagine you get an excellent opportunity in the form of an UNPAID internship, this internship will offer you valuable experience to get into a field of your choosing, but if we are living paycheck to paycheck we will...
Start eating healthier now with the top 5 tips for a better diet instantly.

Start eating healthier now with the top 5 tips for a better diet instantly.

Stop taking in forms of added sugar!   Stop eating foods or drinking drinks with added sugars, and stop adding sugar to the things you eat.  Sugars are just empty calories, they rot your teeth, contribute to weight gain, and spike your blood sugar.  Stop drinking sweet tea, sodas, concentrated fruit juices, pre-made coffee drinks, sweets, and processed foods now!   Increase protein intake!   Start eating more protein dense foods like fish, eggs, chicken, red meat, pork, beans, nuts, legumes, and dairy.  These foods help sustain muscle mass, increase your feeling of fullness and help it last longer, are less likely to be stored on the body as fat, and help prevent blood sugars spikes.   Stop snacking on junk foods!   Everyone knows junk food isn’t good for us, but we keep on eating it anyway.  Junk foods are empty calories, usually high in preservatives and sodium.  Junk foods are usually calorie dense, loaded with highly processed carbohydrates and unhealthy fats like hydrogenated oils.  If you need to snack grab vegetables, fruits, lean meat, nuts, seeds, or a protein bar and stay away from all the junk!   Remove all refined carbohydrates!   Refined carbohydrates are carbohydrates that have been processed and had the natural fiber content removed.  Refined carbohydrates include white rice, white flour, sugar, cornstarch and even concentrated fruit juices.  These carbohydrates are often low in nutrients and they end up spiking your blood sugar levels.  These foods contribute to obesity, diabetes tooth decay, digestive problems, and low energy levels.   Eat more healthy fats!   Eat healthy fats and cut back on unhealthy ones....
What you need to know before you follow your dreams.

What you need to know before you follow your dreams.

“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” Thomas Edison   Before you set out to follow a dream there are several things you should know and keep in mind.  Most people dream in their sleep, and sleep in their waking hours; most people believe that dreams are the magical ideas that come to you in bed at night; most people run from hard work, failure, and adversity; if you are one of these people, unfortunately you are never going to make your dream a reality.  Before you set out to make a dream come true you need to know: failures are the building blocks of success, no great success comes without sacrifice and hard work, dreams can only be accomplished AFTER the effort is put forth -dreams don’t come with pre-approved financing-, and achieving your ultimate goals in life will be the hardest experiences you could ever imagine.   Failures are the building blocks of success. Many of us view failure as final, absolute, unwavering; we tend to see failure as a judgment of our success, but this view is highly detrimental to success.  In order to succeed we must examine our views on failure and what constitutes success.  When a scientist tests a theory, they run a series of experiments to confirm or deny their theory; these tests provide feedback, and that feedback is used to obtain valuable information to improve the theory; eventually with enough solid evidence a theory becomes a law, and it redefines science as we know it. The theory is our life, the experiments are...

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