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5 common mistakes in a new relationship

5 common mistakes in a new relationship

We have all been there: you find yourself in a new relationship or seeing someone new, and you really like this person…you want them to feel the same.  They are everything you have been looking for, they make you feel amazing, and you want them to feel exactly the same way that you feel about them.  This is a normal feeling, but many times the actions we take early on in a relationship will set the stage for big problems later on in our relationships.  It is important to keep certain things in mind, especially in a brand new relationship: present your true self, be honest no matter what, speak your mind, get to know the person, don’t judge but consider compatibility honestly.   Mistake #1. Presenting an image that is not who you are.   A common mistake in new romances is letting the desire to impress and gain approval from a person overtake your desire to be yourself.  Most people don’t like being alone for long periods of time, and a lot of us would rather settle for something ok, than to have nothing at all;  when we meet someone who starts paying attention to us, we start feeling better about ourselves and better about life.  These feelings can cause us to start changing small things about who we are in order to better mesh with another person.  For example:  we may hate large crowds of people, yet our partner loves large social events; it is easy in the beginning to tell them how much we love being around people, but if this simply isn’t true it...
How goals impact your life.

How goals impact your life.

Goals are an incredibly meaningful part of any plan for success.  Whether we are pursuing improvement in health, happiness, business, relationships, or seeking craft mastery we NEED goals to help us measure our progress.  There is no limit to the number of successful people who preach and teach the importance of goals: often attributing large amounts of their success to setting and accomplishing goals along the way.  Goals may grow or change; goals may be hit or may be missed completely; however, goals are a necessary part of any and all success. Goals can help us succeed for a variety of reasons; they give us a target to aim for, they motivate us along the way, they give us feedback, they allow us to measure our progress, and they help us to plan our daily actions so that we are working towards success everyday.   Life is not a race; life should not be seen as a starting point and an end point: life is more complicated than just being the line between point A and point B.  Life involves ups and downs, backwards and forwards, and it involves the endless comparisons of others in relation to our own position.   Nobody knows the meaning of life, and maybe there really is no purpose at all.  No one can say for sure why we are here, but one thing is for sure: we have life.  We are unique beings with a unique consciousness and a unique life experience.  We can not choose everything that happens to us, and there are constantly life events, out of our control, happening that...
How reading helps you grow (The top 3 reading benefits)

How reading helps you grow (The top 3 reading benefits)

Reading may be one of the greatest tools for learning and personal development that there is.  There are few actions that can potentiate life change like reading books can.  We can spend hours reading articles online or watching videos to teach us how to do something, but it almost never amounts to the multitude of information that we can pick out of a book.   Reading self development or teaching books can offer several benefits; not only does reading stimulate your mind and sharpen your vocabulary skills, but reading is also a potent source of real world and specialized knowledge.     Reading stimulates your mind.   Studies have shown over and over again that reading is a powerful exercise for the brain.  People who read regularly tend to have: more depth in their vocabulary, better attention spans, better memory, less incidence of Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia, better writing skills, and increased critical thinking skills.  Being exposed to well written material in published books expands your vocabulary and writing skills through immersion; reading consistently puts you around good writing and vocabulary.  Reading also expands your attention span, focus, and memory; when we read a book we have to remember names, places, dates, and stories; as we learn to focus on more details in a book we increase our power of attention and our information recall simultaneously.  Reading also increases our critical thinking skills; being exposed to complex plots and stories helps us to learn to assimilate information into a broader picture: we can think through ideas and information more precisely.     Reading can offer up encouragement.  ...
How carbohydrates can help you build muscle mass (Part 5 on carbs)

How carbohydrates can help you build muscle mass (Part 5 on carbs)

This article is part 5 of a 5 part series on carbohydrates. Part 1 covers what carbs are and how they affect the body, Part 2 covers glycemic index, Part 3 covers glycemic load, Part 4 covers how to burn fat with carb cycling, and Part 5 covers how to use carbohydrate intake and timing to gain size or muscle mass.   If building muscle or gaining weight is your primary goal,  your carbohydrate intake should be quite different than someone who is trying to lose fat or slim down. The very same hormones that are responsible for increased fat storage and weight gain play a strong role in muscle growth and recovery.  A high carbohydrate intake along with a scheduled weightlifting routine is recommended for anyone looking to gain weight or muscle.   Insulin is a powerful hormone that not only turns glucose into fat, but also turns it into glycogen (a complex form of sugar stored in your liver and muscles for energy). When your body produces insulin, it also produces a hormone called insulin like growth factor one (IGF-1);  IGF-1 production is also increased by growth hormone secretion.  Growth hormone and IGF-1 are powerful hormones that tell the body to build: they increase protein synthesis (muscle building), recovery, and sleep.  All of these powerful hormones should be used together to create a positive environment for muscle growth. Combining a caloric excess with plenty of carbohydrates, high protein, and a high intensity exercise routine will enable you to add weight or muscle to your body with ease, even if you are a person who has trouble putting on...
Your inner voice (Part 2 silence the inner critic)

Your inner voice (Part 2 silence the inner critic)

So you read Part 1 of the inner voices  post and now you can see the importance of  hearing, but not listening to all of your inner voices.  Now you just have to learn a few tricks to master your mind:  tune out negative thoughts and ignore them, hear the negative self talk and replace it with something productive, talk back to the voices, visualize your way into something positive, or clear your mind and meditate (or focus on presence).  You may find that all of these techniques can be of benefit to you, or you may find that only one works effectively to stop your negative inner dialogue, but the only way to find out for sure is to experiment and practice these techniques.   Changing your inner voice will most likely not be easy, and it may be something you will have to focus on for months or years, but with consistent commitment and dedication you will eventually get better control of your inner voice and your emotions, after you do this your confidence will increase and you will be better poised for success in your endeavors.     1. The first technique for modifying your internal dialogue is to tune it out and ignore it.  If you get an urge to try something and a voice of resistance or self doubt shouts its disapproval, some people can just chose to ignore the voice and continue on as normal.  Usually though, people with the ability to just continue on and ignore negative self talk don’t have much of a problem with self doubt anyway, certain life experiences...

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